A robust transparency is necessary at this time in our history.
We pledge to advocate and participate in thoughtful disagreement.
Therefore our objective is to actively promote diversity and cultural
competency, explore issues of color and gender, and inspire people
who have a history of being marginalized, using social media and other
means as platforms to inform various communities of the life experiences
and concerns of marginalized people with regard to the necessity for social
action, dialogue, inclusion, compassion, tolerance, and cultural literacy to
expand and improve human relations going forward, in order to better facilitate
the current worldwide shift in global consciousness from tribalism, instability,
and extremism, to harmony, cooperation and enduring peace. In addition, we
welcome and support other organizations that promote the transformation of
as taught by spiritual teachers like Guru Nanak Dev and others.

Communication and Cooperation Works

“When the adversity will hit, the communication will break.
Never break the communication, neither with an enemy nor
with a friend. Keep communicating. That’s what God does.
Just understand. Communication is vibration. Keep vibrating,
but positively. Never listen to negativity.” The Siri Singh Sahib

"Do not criticize anybody. Everybody is good within his own atmosphere.
Try to show your best nature. There are three types of people: Fanatic,
Liberal, and Lazy. Lazy are lazy because they are lazy. Fanatics have
got hang-ups. They do not reach anywhere because they are stuck. They
don't know what to do next. So whatever little they have, they feel it is their
kingdom; they don't want to be disturbed and they do not want to enter into
anybody's life. The Liberals of the New Age -- the Age of Truth, these people
want to know who they are, what they are, and why they are." Yogi Bhajan

"When a totally complete, comfortable, happy man touches an unhappy man,
he brings happiness. Life is a sharing. We share our sorrows and we share
our happiness. And if somebody is in sorrow, and we pour our happiness
into that person, we make him happy. For that we need clarity of the mind.
We need the strength of the soul. We need enlargement of our point of
view. We need tolerance. We need courage." The Siri Singh Sahib


Hari Singh Bird

Sat Nam. A student recently asked me what the Sikhs think about the ongoing conflicts between the Israelis and the Palestinians. My reply was to advise him that Sikhs need to deal with the tribalism that exists within Sikhism before we can deal with Middle East issues. Otherwise we are seen as hypocrites.

The objective of SikhTribes.com is to expose tribalism (see recent example) and bigotry, and promote Guru Nanak's message of pluralism, cultural competency, and universal service. This includes reaching out to the Sikh community for opportunities to engage in enlightened dialogue using various platforms to reach especially those who have experienced being otherized to have discourse on how to practice diversity, inclusion, compassion, and tolerance in order to facilitate the current shift in global consciousness from tribalism, instability, and discord, to pluralism, harmony, and enduring peace. See example.

Note: Discourse is not meant to stir up feelings of guilt. It is meant to drive people to action against injustice. Question is are we mature enough to sit down and discuss issues to do with tribalism, racereligion, and gender?

For those who dare.

Tribalism: The social tendency to live in loyalty to a tribe, social group, club, clan or gang (a tribe within a tribe or tribal hierarchy; a kind of pervasive and insidious group infection), especially when combined with an unfair treatment or strong negative attitude toward marginalized people outside the tribe. Religious organizations are particularly prone to tribalism. The Shiite vs Sunni of Islam, and the Baptized vs Non-baptized of Sikhism are just two examples of many. See Miriam-Webster Definition. See Explanatory Notes.

Also see Recent Tribal Violence In India. See One Is The Answer. What Is The Question? Hear How Tribalism Is Destroying American Democracy. See Why Are White Tantra Yoga Classes So 'White'? See The way out of tribal thinking. Also see The 'Turbanators'.


Hari Singh Bird

Plain, old-fashioned, ubiquitous tribalism.

Sat Nam. A while back I posted a missive on the definition of tribalism and its relation to Sikhs, and the teachings of Guru Nanak to wit:

"Tribalism: The social tendency to live in loyalty to a tribe, social group, club, clan or gang (a tribe within a tribe or tribal hierarchy, a kind of pervasive and insidious social-group infection) especially when combined with an unfair treatment or strong negative attitude toward marginalized people outside the group. Religious organizations are particularly prone to tribalism. The Shiite vs Sunni of Islam and the Baptized vs Non-baptized of Sikhism are just two examples of many." See Explanatory Notes.

Subsequently, a Sikh gentleman of Punjabi heritage replied, stating that, "tribalism does not exist amongst the Sikh community."

Although not using the term 'tribalism', Sardar PPS Gill appears to strongly disagree, stating in the following missive that, "It’s time Sikh institutions are reformed." Additional commentaries follow. Read on.


Sardar PPS Gill
Senior journalist and former
Information Commissioner of Punjab

It’s time Sikh institutions are reformed.

For quite some time, the role and function of Sikh institutions in articulating the Sikh aspirations, expectations and frustrations has raised fresh questions. Particularly, on the erosion in the autonomy, independence and sovereignty, or whatever remains, of the apex organs: SGPC (Shiromani Gurdwara Parbandhak Committee) and Akal Takht.

Given the hire and fire policy in respect of the clergy, religiously followed by the 'politicised' SGPC at the bidding of its political bosses, a subservient attitude is discernible. Even the system of appointment or removal of the SGPC President is arbitrary and politically motivated. In the prevailing cloistered religio-political system, the incumbents are expected to show 'unalloyed loyalty' to their political masters.

The politicisation of the SGPC and Sikh clergy is a cause of concern, given the contradictions and opaqueness in decision-making. Why has there been a continuous erosion and denigration of these institutions? Even as the jury is out on the juxtaposition of religion and politics, the fact is that vested interests have politicised religion. Religion has not been evoked as a detergent to cleanse politics.

Then there is the growing cult of sants, mahants, babas and gurus; sects, cults and deras. Punjab provides a fertile ground for them to flourish, ostensibly under 'state' or 'political' patronage. The key Sikh institutions have failed to checkmate these.

Understandably, a majority of those who flock to the deras is from among the 'weaker sections', 'Scheduled Castes and other backward classes'. The deras are not just a vote-bank, but something more than that.

This vast section of society feels left out of the state's 'welfare schemes'  denying them economic emancipation, social equality, income generation, employment opportunities and affordable, quality education and health delivery services. They have been ignored and marginalised by the Sikh religio-political leadership. This has alienated them, depriving them of societal recognition, respect, equality, and human dignity.

Thus, deras flourish as they provide their followers 'recognition', something neither the governments nor Sikh religio-political leadership gave them. While the governments ignored them, Sikh institutions never welcomed them into their fold. Resultantly, there are sharp divisions based on religion, caste, creed and class in villages, where segregation is widespread. Proof lies in the existence of separate cremation grounds, gurdwaras and dharmshalas for different communities. [Tribalism?]

Strangely, in the wake of the countrywide outcry against 'atrocities' on the minorities, cow vigilantism, saffronisation of institutions, the Akali leadership has maintained a silence for fear of annoying the BJP or losing a Cabinet berth. And, the religious wing never made any attempts to 'own' the estranged sections that opted for deras and invested their faith in 'gurus' and 'babas'.

To reverse this trend, it is time the government implemented its 'welfare schemes' and changed its approach towards dera followers. It is also time for radical reforms to restore dignity, independence, sovereignty and autonomy of the Sikh clergy and SGPC. It is equally important to restore 'inner democracy' in the SAD. Punjab must maintain communal harmony, peace and tranquility, which is ever so fragile.

Often, concerned scholars, not necessarily neutral, have suggested alternatives to ride out the crises. Since conflict, contradiction and confrontation dominate the Sikh institutions and Sikh psyche, scholars need to cooperate and coordinate in the larger interest of the state and the Sikhs.

Have there been attempts to reform or restore lost dignity of these institutions?

One attempt was initiated at the World Sikh Sammelan in Amritsar in September 1995, with Sikhs settled abroad demanding a broad-based SGPC with a representative character; widening its ambit, worldwide. Then (between 1994 and 1996) by a retired Army Colonel, the late Gurdip Singh Grewal, floated the idea of setting up of a Global Sikh Senate. But all such attempts were scuttled by those who hold sway over them, fearing the loss of hegemony and control, since they drew 'power' from these institutions. Numerous seminars have been held to 'forge' unity in Sikh religio-political folds. These attempts have remained stillborn.

Grewal’s idea was to enable the Sikh community at home and abroad to meet the challenges and adapt itself for optimum viable prosperity moving into the 21st century. He believed that such a senate was imperative for globally integrating secular Sikh social order: Sikhs, he believed, being a consensual society, the senate could create a virtuous circle of consensus for the prosperity of the entire community.

He was of the opinion that the existing imperfections were on account of two factors: one, the casting of Sikh politics into an archetypical mould of thoughtlessness and attitude of confrontation; two, the guardians of gurdwara-based politics, generally ultra-orthodox, maintained a stranglehold on the Sikh affairs, obstructing enlightened minds from participating.

At the 1995 World Sikh Sammelan, it was also resolved that a World Sikh Council and Zonal Sikh Councils be set up under the Jathedar of Akal Takht. The concept was aborted due to differences cropping up among the power-wielders. The then Jathedar, Giani Puran Singh, disbanded all units in March, 2000.

With the Akali leadership, having parceled various religio-political institutions between themselves for decades, showed little or no interest either in the World Sikh Council or in the concept of Global Sikh Senate.

Besides the key reforms needed for reinventing the SGPC, SAD and Akal Takht, other pending issues include: failure of the Sikh leadership to either get an All-India Gurdwara Act enacted, in the past six decades or to rein in the growing cult of sants, mahants, babas and gurus; sects, cults and deras; or on the voting rights of Sehjdhari Sikhs in SGPC elections. The matter is in the court.

It is time the government recalibrates its policies and approach towards nearly 50 per cent of the population that believes in deras and feels alienated, and the religio-political Sikh leadership comes out of its orthodoxy-shell and think of out-of-the-box reforms. Source. 


It seems the denial of the existence of tribalism by many Sikhs is just as ubiquitous as tribalism itself. Kindly check out these links. Western Sikhs Not Interviewed, Sikh Tribes, and The Way Out of Tribal Thinking.



See Definitions. See Sikh Definitions. See Glossary of Sikh Terms. See Greetings, Names and Titles. Read on.


John R. Boyd
See Boyd's OODA Loop.

The Alienation of Tribal Members

Studies of human behavior reveal that the actions we undertake as individuals are closely related to survival, more importantly, survival on our own terms. Naturally, such a notion implies that we should be able to act relatively free or independent of any debilitating external influences—otherwise that very survival might be in jeopardy. In viewing the instinct for survival in this manner we imply that a basic aim or goal, as individuals, is to improve our capacity for independent action.

The degree to which we cooperate, or compete, with others is driven by the need to satisfy this basic goal. If we believe that it is not possible to satisfy it alone, without help from others, history shows us that we will agree to constraints upon our independent action—in order to collectively pool skills and talents in the form of nations, corporations, labor unions, mafias [tribes], etc.—so that obstacles standing in the way of the basic goal can either be removed or overcome.

On the other hand, if the group [tribe] cannot or does not attempt to overcome obstacles deemed important to many (or possibly any) of its individual members, the group must risk losing these alienated members. Under these circumstances, the alienated members may dissolve their relationship and remain independent, form a group of their own, or join another collective body in order to improve their capacity for independent action. Download pdf for more. See 'Tribes' The Movie.

The way out of Tribal Thinking.
What is Tribalism?


Dya Singh*

How to get Sikhs fighting each other

Since the beginning of Sikhee, like other religious groups [tribes], we too have the capacity of finding reasons to become disagreeable with each other.

I decided to start a ‘list’ to gauge how ridiculous we are as a community when it comes to our practices, rituals and general living as a community. This list was prompted by the sometimes very silly disagreements, sometimes turning to violence, of the recent and current ‘Dasam Granth’ (DG) issue.

So we shall start with that. That itself is not one issue but leads to other sub issues. If someone does not pick it up right away, I am putting all this down as a form of ridicule. And I shall only list ‘some’ of the issues with the DG. There are many!

Is there an authentic Dasam Granth?
Was it compiled by dhan dhan Guru Gobind Singh Ji?
Are the banis in DG authentic or are at least some of the banis in DG authentic?
Can we have a DG parkash alongside the Sri Guru Granth Sahib (SGGS), maybe a few inches lower than the Guru Granth Sahib Ji?
Should we sing ‘Deh Shiva’?
Should we remove all banis of Guru Gobind Singh Ji because none are in SGGS? On DG itself, O yes, there are many more issues!
Where does Mool Mantr end?
What segments of Gurbani must be included in evening nitnem (daily prayer) of Rehras Sahib?
Should tables and chairs be allowed in langgar halls of Gurdwara Sahibs?
When should kirpan bhet be done for deg/parshaadh and what should the ritual be?
Should a separate kauli be set aside with parshaadh presumably for the Granthi Sahib so that he does not miss out?
Should chair seating be allowed in Darbar Sahib?
When should langgar ardaas be done?
Should a special plate full of langgar first be brought before SGGS for Ardaas before
langgar can be served?
Must one have a pela around one’s neck when doing Ardaas?
Should a golak be right in front of SGGS?

The list of course is not exhaustive. You can keep adding to it ad infinitum.

My point is that the most important virtue in Sikhee, as I learnt, is nimerta (humility) which is developed with sincere sewa, leading to Naam. Having a good time comes a close second!

I am amazed at the rift that has occurred not only amongst friends, even families, on these differences, even here in my homeland Malaysia, especially on this Dasam Granth issue. And interestingly, anyone who professes a status quo is ostracised by both sides! The two opposing sides have themselves in some instances come to blows, beard ripping and unturbanning of each other.

So, I am proposing an official third ‘party’ – the status quo party. If it was OK with Sant Baba Sohan Singh Ji and his Malaysian team of Granthis, then it is good enough for me.

Yes, with new information and learning, our procedures can evolve. It does not happen overnight. Let me cite you an interesting example.

To convert from oil divas to electricity, in Darbar Sahib (Amritsar, Punjab), going back to the late 19th century, took 11 years of bickering and sometimes violent opposition! We like to believe that we have matured from then. But, not so. We have not learnt how to disagree without becoming disagreeable.

I believe time has come for us to be able to practice our faith as we sincerely wish to, and allow each ‘group’ to practice as each feels comfortable. We cannot change that nor enforce ones will upon the other.

I shall write further on this/these issues in my usual light hearted manner within my own shortcomings and limited knowledge. But I was virtually born in a Gurdwara in Malaysia, to a savant and a qualified Granthi Sahib and during the wonderful life and times of Sant Baba Sohan Singh Ji. So some of that Sikhee has rubbed off on me. And I feel I can pass it on to the younger generations who are sometimes left completely bewildered with our behaviour as a Quom. -- Source.


Malaysia-born Dya Singh, who now resides in Australia, is an accomplished musician and a roving Sikh preacher. The Dya Singh World Music Group performs full scale concerts on ‘music for the soul’ based on North Indian classical and semi-classical styles of music with hymns from mainly the Sikh, Hindu and Sufi ‘faiths’.

See 'Mixed faith marriages should be banned in Sikh temples'. See Why Are White Tantra Yoga Classes So 'White'? See Definitions. See Sikh Definitions. See Glossary of Sikh Terms. See Greetings, Names and Titles. See 'Tribes' The Movie. Read on.


Fatehpal Singh Tarney

'Western' Sikhs were not interviewed

I viewed the hour-long TV Special on Sikh-Americans and their Sikhi last Sunday on CNN, as part of the series, "United  Shades of America". It was well done and I enjoyed it very much.

I thought all the Sikhs interviewed were devout and articulate and representative of a variety of ages and professions. There was an intellectual, a soldier, an actor, a politician, and a prosperous farmer with deep roots in America. There were even some young gatka practitioners.

I recall a photo or short video clip during the program of some 'Western' Sikhs, but I wish one of them had also been interviewed. This would have made the case that Sikhi is not a race, ethnicity, or nationality, but a religion with principles and a Scripture open to all. True, our origins were in Punjab, and we have an alphabet and language from there that is central to our faith. But a Western convert would have shown the public that although most Sikhs still live in India and most are of Punjabi ancestry - there are many others around the world.

I also believe that Sikhs who are blessed to have been born into our faith need to be reminded every now and then of certain historical realities: for example, the first of our Ten Gurus to have been born into a Sikh family was our Fifth Master, Guru Arjan. Therefore, and I write this both proudly and humbly at the same time, we converts have something significant in common with our first four Gurus! [See Definition of Tribalism.]

Guru Angad, formerly Bhai Lehna, was originally a devotee of the Hindu goddess Durga. Meeting Guru Baba Nanak was the turning point in his life, when he embraced Sikhi.

Guru Amar Das spent most of his life as a devout Hindu who used to do his ritual puja and engaged in fasting and pilgrimage. He became a disciple of Guru Angad at the age of 62. Yet, look at all that he accomplished thereafter! For example, he prohibited the practice of sati, developed the Langar as an integral part of Gurdwara life, and he wrote great poetry. He became the Third Master at the age of 73. Guru Amar Das advocated the re-marrying of widows and disavowed the Hindu practice of burning of widows on their husbands’ funeral pyres, long before the British arrived and enacted laws against the hideous practices.

And then, we recite Guru Amar Das’ composition, The Anand Sahib, at every diwan, every morning, every evening.

The message here, I suggest, is that the essence of Sikhi is transformation. Regardless of our background, Sikhi offers us a path to greater spiritual enlightenment, and to more and better sewa. See More Fatehpal Singh Tarney.

See 'Tribes' The Movie. Read on.


Siri Pritam Kaur Khalsa

'Western' Sikhs were not interviewed.

I was interviewed for this segment (United  Shades of America) several months ago here in Yuba City by the producer Kamau Bell when they came to film several people here in town.

It had involved quite a bit of advance planning... I was to walk along a path at Lake Ellis (near to Yuba City) with cameramen every few feet recording me and Kamau as we talked, with an eventual sit down conversation.

My message contained precisely what Fatehpal Singh is pointing out as missing: Sikhs come in all colors and nationalities.

I spoke about my own experience, how I am an integral part of our region's Sikh community and have been for 30 plus years and spoke of my close association with the Punjabi American Heritage Society (founding member, past president).

I got a call a few weeks back slaying that unfortunately, my interview ended up on the cutting room floor.

Sat Naam,

Siri Pritam Kaur Khalsa, Yuba City, CA

See 'Tribes' The Movie. Read on.


Ram Dhan Singh Khalsa

Sat Nam. The Sikh religion is pluralistic in principle, but not in application. There are many Sikh tribes. SALDEF; SDI; SCORE; and Sikh Coalition are just a few.

During the 3HO Summer Solstice Sadhana people express the theme "the other person is you," but I don't think they believe it.

The 'Western/American' Sikhs were cut from the documentary [United  Shades of America]; are they an important part of the story, or are they seen as a fringe group? We don't see ourselves as tribal, yet many 'Western/American' Sikhs see 'Punjabi/Indian' Sikhs as 'other', and vice versa.

SikhTribes.com is informative; I enjoyed reading it, but I wonder if very many Sikh visitors can ever see themselves as tribal? See Explanatory Notes.

See The Way Out of Tribal Thinking. See The Question of Authority Within Sikhism. See Why Are White Tantra Yoga Classes So 'White'? See 'Mixed faith marriages should be banned in Sikh temples'. See Sikh UK Mixed Marriage Guidelines.


Balvinder Kaur Saund

Where is the Gender Equality?

Regarding, 'Christian Preacher Admires Sex Equality in Sikhism' [see article].

Yes, of course Sikh Gurbani teachings are the best for female gender equality, but how many Sikh people practise what they preach? For the past 15 years of running a group called Sikh Women's Alliance, I have not seen many changes, which give me hope.

In fact the inequality pressures on women have become greater, what with expensive weddings and keeping up with your peers, i.e., who does the most over the top wedding and reception party at £100,000 venue, which is then the talk of the community? And what about the rising statistics proving female Infanticide is still rife, gender selected abortions, celebrations of boy births in Gurdwaras, parties, ladoo distributions, and sponsoring of programmes on radio stations to show off, and the reading of a long list of extended family names?

Parents of girls are still expected to give gold and gifts to the boy's family to show off how rich they are, and fake Balle Balle. How many women are on Gurdwara Management Committees or Sikh organisations? Female voices are silenced, as the Sikh community does not want to openly admit how badly some of them treat their daughters-in-laws and wives. [See The Case of Samia Shahid.]

A majority of Sikh organisations are mainly fronted by fierce looking men who see women as inferior, and only good for cooking langar or reciting Gurbani in Gurdwara buildings, which do not provide them with safe community centres, or disability facilities.

The SGPC of Darbar Sahib in 2016 is still not treating Sikh women as equals by allowing them anywhere in the inner sanctum of their control. No hukamnamas or edicts coming out from Amritsar, which decree that women must be treated equally, and not killed in the womb.

Domestic violence from drug and alcohol related addictions of many Sikh boys who are not working and able to look after there wives and children. Women get blamed for everything wrong that happens in a marriage.

Last year, when we held a conference on the theme, 'Why Asian women are still not getting equality in the 21st Century' in Ilford Gurdwara, we asked the Granthi in charge of that Gurdwara to say a few words from the stage as to what Gurbani says about gender equality, as people do listen to his discourses.

He refused, saying that our Sikh community does not listen to what is said from the stage, and that elderly women will carry on making younger women feel inferior if they do not give birth to boy babies.

He said that no amount of preaching that people should celebrate Lohri and distribute pink Ladoos on birth of baby girls will make any difference. This Granthi left before we started our conference, and we women talked to each another about inequality.

I was not surprised at this Granthi's attitude, as years earlier, when that Gurdwara first opened, I visited with my two daughters. This Granthi was giving a sermon that women are sapnis (snakes) who turn themselves into different forms, i.e., money, courtesans, chandi, etc., to corrupt the man.

I was glad my two daughters could not understand his deep Panjabi as they would have been offended. I verbally complained to one of the Trustee Advisors who told this Granthi that some women had objected to his sermon, and also at the fact that he was expecting everyone to touch his feet and treated him like God. This Granthi has now toned down his sermons, but every now and then we still get preachers coming into Gurdwaras saying that women are impure, as they menstruate.

Why do all these rules only apply to women and not men, some of whom stink of alcohol and tobacco? [See Definition of Tribalism.] But they are allowed to give shoulder to Palki at the Golden Temple. But God help any Sikh woman who dares to touch the Palki, as the sevadaars will yell at them, and tell them to move away from the Palki.

No wonder my two daughters married non-Sikh husbands, as they are very happy that they do not have to contend with the gender inequality in the Sikh faith.

Do not blame the girls. Look at the way the community and rival relatives are denigrating our own daughters and women? Why are our youth marrying out of the faith in droves? SWA logo is 'Love and Value the Daughter' and make her feel she is a Princess, not a burden.

Kind regards,

Mrs. Balvinder Kaur Saund

Question: Balvinder 'Kaur' Saund is a Sikh woman, but how would anybody know she is a Sikh? See What Sikh Women Need To Know. See Why Do Sikhs Wear Turbans? See Why Don't Sikh Women Tie Turban? See SikhWomenWearTurbans.com.

Also see More Balvinder Kaur Saund. See 'My Sikh Sense' Regarding Nikki Haley. See Why There Are So Few Converts To Sikhism. See Why Are White Tantra Yoga Classes So 'White'? See Definitions. See Sikh Definitions. See Glossary of Sikh Terms. See Greetings, Names and Titles. See 'Tribes' The Movie. Read on.


Siri Pritam Kaur Khalsa

Where is the Gender Equality?

I find I very much appreciate the letter by Mrs. Balvinder Kaur Saund of the Sikh Woman’s Alliance.

The frustration and disillusionment is clearly felt. These traditions, the over the top weddings, the double work load and lack of appreciation for the value of women in the family – it all exists and we see it daily.

The emphasis on boys is all too real.

You have my 100% agreement there. Last week, our local Gurdwara elected a new board: out of the 150 candidates listed, only one woman. I don’t think she made it.

And the list goes on… you stated it all. But where do we go from here? These deep seated cultural ways have little to do with Guru Nanak’s revolutionary message to us but everything with the old ways, brought from the home country.

But it is not always bad. Sometimes, when done right, these traditions produce strong family bonds that weather economic challenges; they produce strong families, secure children, with young parents that get a head start at life with a solid degree, no debt to their name, a nice home and often a spouse well suited to make a good partner and mother to the young. Elderly parents help where they can and are provided for and honored.

But many times that is not so. How can this be turned around? What can we do to bring about a change, a new day? Since we have so little control over others, we need to start with ourselves.

My thoughts goes like this: If every woman who gives birth teaches her child the reality of this inequality, the reality about the pain it causes that will eventually affect them, speaks about the beauty of Guru Nanak’s message… I am convinced it is only when we go that deep that a change will come about.

And just like in Guru Nanak’s times, it took tremendous courage in the face of adversity, it took going against long held traditions that had lost their meaning… The times are calling out for us to stand up.

And those of us who are older can use our wisdom to support those that are younger. As a wise teacher once said, “Unless every woman becomes a sister to every other woman there will be tears on this earth.

Siri Pritam Kaur Khalsa, Yuba City, CARead on.

Pages, Photos And Points To Ponder

See The 'Turbanators'. See SikhTribes.com. See Turban Is Bana. See Duality Optics. See The Essence of Kaur. See The Turban Is A Bigot Detector. See Broad Points. See But Where Are The Women? See The Role And Status of Sikh Women. See U.S. Sikhs Want Women To Sing At Golden Temple. See Bibi Kiranjot Kaur On Women's Rights. See A Muslim Woman Teaches Kirtan. See Women Are Not Allowed To Play Kirtan. See Sikhism And Homosexuality. See Why Do You Not See Any Sikh Women? See Sikh Identity Is For Men Only. See When Will Sikh Men Stand Up. See Sikh Women's Issues. See Women And The Sikh Religion. See My Response To The Sikh Minister Survey. See How To Make Yoga Classes LGBT Friendly. See Punjabi Sikh Optics Do Matter. See What's With Sikhs And Gender Equality? See Circumstance. See The Woman Pope. See Women Are Much More Than This. See The Question of Authority Within Sikhism. See Should Mixed Faith Marriage In Sikh Temples Be Banned? See Balvinder Kaur Saund. See Maharani Jind Kaur: Saint Soldier. See Sudha Kaur Chopra On Gurdwara Security. See Why Don't Sikh Women Tie Turban? See Life According To Hari Nam Kaur. See I Fight Like A Girl. See Dastaar For Sikh Women. See The Turban Is A Crown. See The Essence of Kaur. See Life According To Joan Baez. See Menstruation From A Woman's Perspective. See Granny Stops Burglar. See Life According To Andrea Mitchell. See 'Sikh' And Ye Shall Find. See The Story Behind My Turban. See We Are We, We Are One. See Sikhs Shine. See Women Wimps Or Warriors. See Women Warriors. See Jai Jagdeesh Kaur's Ad Guray Nameh. See Refuse To Be A Victim Seminar. See Amazon Women. See How The Marines Transform Me Into We. See Memories of Khalsa Women's Rifle Drill Team. See SikhsShine.com. See Definitions. See Sikh Definitions. See Glossary of Sikh Terms. See Greetings, Names and Titles.

Read on.


Hari Singh BIrd

Banning of mixed faith marriages In Sikh temples

Sat Nam! Let's forget the current 'Learning-Zone' blog topic, 'Mixed faith marriages should be banned in Sikh temples' topic, and shift our focus to a more fundamental issue.

There's arguable linkage, a much ignored connection, between the issues of Sikh gender inequality and banning marriages between Sikhs and non-Sikhs. Both are aspects of tribalism. Watch Tribalism For Those Who Dare.

Until Sikhs deal with and overcome the failure to practice Guru Nanak Dev Ji's teachings re gender equality, including the issues presented by Balvinder Kaur Saund and Siri Pritam Kaur Khalsa, there can be no resolution to the mixed faith marriage issue for Sikhs.

Chardi Kala! --

See The Question of Authority Within Sikhism. See Why Are White Tantra Yoga Classes So 'White'? See Sikh UK Mixed Marriage Guidelines. See Glossary of Sikh Terms. See Women Are Much More Than This.


Fatehpal Singh Tarney

Gurdwara Watchdogs:
Janam Da Firangee, Sikhi Mai Mangee

Through the years, from my experience as a youngster and in my informal conversations with non-Sikhs at interfaith gatherings, I have learned that all faiths have adherents who are too preoccupied with trivial details rather than authentic spirituality. There is often a fine line between important, visible symbols and adherence to one's faith, on the one hand, and superficiality on the other.

In my local sadh sangat, there are what I refer to as constant watchdogs, always on the lookout for real and imagined practices they consider undesirable. There is one fellow, for example, who reprimands elderly sardars who do not completely cover their hair and under-turbans with their dastars. Apparently, he has no appreciation of the fact that senior citizens may well be contending with vision impairments, nerve disorders, Parkinson disease symptoms, and other issues, and therefore may not be able tie their dastars as well as they did in their younger years. I always thought that respect for the elderly was a fundamental value.

I just had an experience with another watchdog who told me that I did not have my rehal (X-shaped foldable book-rest) in the proper place. I have a small prayer book stand on which I have a Nitnem and an English-Punjabi/Punjabi-English dictionary. Of course, I usually have this in front of me in the diwan hall, but when it is very crowded and when I prepare to stand for the ardaas, I place it to my side so that I neither interfere with myself nor anyone else.

This particular fellow chastised me and said that the rehal should always be in front of me. I wonder if he would have said anything to me were I perceived to be a Punjabi Sikh [tribalism] rather than a Westerner. I am sad to say that there are Punjabi Sikhs at my gurdwara in south Florida who still consider me an outsider [marginalized] despite my having been a Sikh for almost 40 years; having been a member of this sadh sangat for 30 years and having been only one of two Western Sikhs to have been presidents of predominantly Punjabi sadh sangats in North America.

Sikhi is not a race; nor an ethnicity; nor a nationality. True, a particular language and alphabet is central to our faith, but our faith consists of a set of universal principles that are meant to be lived by, not dogma or ritual.

We also have a person who is concerned with the position of people's feet relative to our Guru Granth Sahib. A lady at the age of 72, was re-positioning her legs and feet on the diwan floor, when this person who was in the line waiting to mattha-tek said something to her. He reprimanded her for pointing her feet at our Guru Granth Sahib when she was merely changing her body position.

Shouldn't this fellow have been focusing more on his obeisance to Guru Sahib than on the body adjustments of other devotees?

I am reminded here of the story of Guru Baba Nanak in Mecca. His feet, considered unclean, were facing the Kaaba and a mullah was offended and gathered a crowd in protest. Baba Nanak said, “Brothers, why are you so upset?” The mullah replied, “Because the sacred stone represents God and you don’t put your feet in the direction of God. That is bad!” Baba Nanak replied, “If you can tell me where God is NOT, I will gladly point my feet there.”

As I have written many times before, one of my heroes has been the late Khushwant Singh. I have the strong feeling that he would agree wholeheartedly with my opinions here. Sikhi should be about love, forgiveness and humility. What I often see in some amongst us is arrogance and intolerance. We Sikhs experience prejudice and discrimination on a regular basis. Shouldn't we simply focus on being kind and forgiving to each other?

I am reminded of something from an Urdu poem which in translation goes something like, “My face was dirty, but I was obsessed with cleaning the mirror! -- Source.

See 'My Sikh Sense' Regarding Nikki Haley. See Why There Are So Few Converts To Sikhism. See Definitions. See Sikh Definitions. See Glossary of Sikh Terms. See Greetings, Names and Titles. Read on.

More Points To Ponder

"Man’s greatest achievements have come about by talking,
and the greatest failures by not talking." Stephen Hawking

"The typical tribalist will even marginalize the Creator if
the actions of the Creator are contrary to their personal views.
The biggest threat to organizations and innovation is tribal politics,
i.e., an organizational culture, which doesn't accept failure, and/or doesn't
accept ideas from outside, and/or cannot accept change." Hari Singh Bird

"It is here that we remember that, even when hatred burns hottest, even when
the tug of tribalism is at its most primal, we must resist the urge to turn inward.
We must resist the urge to demonize those who are different." Barack Obama

“We are going to have to guard against a rise in a crude sort of nationalism, or
ethnic identity or tribalism that is built around an 'us' and a 'them'." Barack Obama

Christianity, Islam, and Judaism are tribalists in their practices, but they are
not alone as evidenced by what's happening in this, the depths of Kali Yuga.

Tribalism is the opposite of pluralism, the no class, no caste, One Creator of Creation principle, taught and championed by Guru Nanak Dev. Tribalism (institutional shakti pad?) breeds racism. The antidote to tribalism is something akin to a Sensitivity Summit in which Courageous Dialogue with and between people of color, women, and other marginalized groups can occur. NOTE: The human tendency to tribalism and its practice of exclusion offends the innate longing to belong for which every human being yearns. It is the core issue underlying the strife that afflicts and affects most nations today, especially in the Middle East.

Question: How does one know when tribalism is a likely issue?
Answer: When dialogue between opposing parties is non-existent.
When diversity is minimal or nonexistent and exclusion is the practice.
When there's a lot of yelling and telling, not enough listening and learning.

"Man is so weak that he has not created a universal system.
All he has created is a political system. A political system is an
outright system where a bunch of people (tribe) rules other people.
As long as a bunch of people will rule other people, God shall never
become our ruler. As long as people will rule people, it will be difficult for
mankind to realize that God is our ultimate ruler." Yogi Bhajan 11/18/1984

Explanatory Notes

.) No human being is without prejudice. The human mind was created to make choices, e.g., to discriminate between up and down, in and out, black and white, etc. Therefore, we must remain aware of the tendency to use this discretionary ability to marginalize and even repress people with whom we differ. We need to constantly see to it that we advocate for pluralism and against tribalism in the interest of justice and fairness. See This Is Racism.

.) Tribalism breeds nepotism and-or cronyism, which eventually leads to an incestuous association of tribes within tribes, especially among nations, religious organizations, corporate structures, charitable foundations, political parties, etc. Everybody belongs to a family, tribe, group, or association. The question: is the group tribalistic or pluralistic in its attitude and relations? See Science Is Embarrassingly White. See Siege Mentality.

.) Open dialogue between conflicted parties is the only pathway to resolution. Discourse is not meant to stir up feelings of guilt. Discourse is meant to drive people to action against injustice. Question is are we mature enough to sit down and discuss issues of diversity, including race, religion, and gender?

.) Extreme examples of Tribalism are evident in today's Israel, Palestine, Iraq, Syria, Afghanistan, and Punjab, India. In spite of the turmoil, humanity is moving toward pluralism albeit with much kicking and screaming. See SikhTribes.com. Also see Where's The Love?

Also see A Classic Case of Tribalism. See Nationalism. See Hierarchy. See Racism. See Why Are White Tantra Yoga Classes So 'White'? See Tribalism, For Those Who Dare. See Why Tribalism Is Such A Bad Idea. See One Is The Answer. See Gurdwara Watchdogs. See Life According To Bishop Desmond Tutu. See Science Is Embarrassingly White. See Siege Mentality. See No Where To Go But Jail Video. Read on.


Pindie Kaur Dhaliwal

Revolutionary Feminist

So I am the least likely person to be writing this. My Panjabi is terrible. I rarely go to the Gurdwara. And worst of all, my rotis are anything but round. I simply am not the idealistic definition of a Sikh. But before we go any further, I want to tell you about a conversation I had a year ago. I was chatting with a good friend of mine and this conversation quickly escalated into an argument. An argument about Sikhi. Although he and I both grew up in Sikh homes. Both children of hard working immigrant parents. Both surrounded by the love of our grandparents, chachas and aunties. We had wholly different experiences with Sikhi.

You see; I am a female.

I know the story of Sikhi is that men and women are equals. And when that ideology is set against the contrasting culture of India’s rampant misogyny, Sikhi is revolutionary. That is simply extraordinary. After all, Guru Nanak Sahib said, “from her, kings are born.” Yet today, we as females are made not only to feel inferior, but filled with doubt about what Sikhi actually stands for. I was frustrated, lost and angry. And vented these emotions to him.

He tried to persuade me about the power of Sikhi. So I shared with him an experience I had. I had not been home to my pind, Madhopur, since I was four years old. Though it was so long ago, I remembered how the wheat fields danced for me and how the sun spread its warm embrace through the sky. A quarter of a century later, my mum, dad, Bea ji and I returned home. I connected with my ancestral home, visited with distant family, knocked back gol guppay and like any good Sikh, made my way to Harmandir Sahib.

We were there for three nights. And during the wee hours of one morning, we went to watch Sri Guru Granth Sahib being ceremoniously moved from Akal Takht. I noticed my Dad was participating in the procession, but my mum and Bea ji stood idly next to me. So I whispered to my Bea ji, “why aren’t you with Dad?” Her hushed response emptied my heart. “Because, Pindie, we are not allowed. We are women.”

After sharing this story, I asked Dad, if our faith is founded on equality why do we as females face such inequality? He was left speechless.

A few days passed and he somehow managed to persuade me to come to a SikhRI event. I stubbornly attended. And from a place of confliction and confusion, I began to connect.

I connected to the poetic prose of Inni Kaur and the magnetic force of Harinder Singh. I connected to the space they created to ask my stupid, innocent questions. I connected to the Guru’s way of thinking. And so began my journey with Sikhi.

I know there are others like me. Who are just as lost. Just as puzzled. And just as disheartened.

Yet, we continue to ignore the fact that our youth are being neglected and not taught about what it means to be a Sikh. Our grandmothers and mothers are being treated as if they are second class in the most sacred of spaces. Our leaders are falling silent in speaking up for injustices that face humanity, from the farmers of Panjab to the wars that divide us. And we are becoming less concerned about keeping Sikhi alive and thriving.

We as a community are at a crossroads. And it’s time we meet the challenges that face us and build for the future. After all, if you truly believe in something, and you truly believe in it’s work, you have to be willing in making that work happen.

If we rise up together, we can reclaim the promise and ensure the future of Sikhi.

Much gratitude. Much love.

Question: Pindie 'Kaur' Dhaliwal is a Sikh woman, but how would anybody know she is a Sikh?

See What Sikh Women Need To Know. See Why Don't Sikh Women Tie Turban? See Why Do Sikhs Wear Turbans? See SikhWomenWearTurbans.com. Also see A Classic Case of Tribalism. See Nationalism. See Hierarchy. See Racism. See Tribalism, For Those Who Dare. See Why Tribalism Is Such A Bad Idea. See Why Are White Tantra Yoga Classes So 'White'? See One Is The Answer. See Gurdwara Watchdogs. See Life According To Bishop Desmond Tutu. See SikhsShine.com. Read on.


Baldev Singh Dhaliwal

Sikhs and Binary thinking

I have often wondered if Sikhs suffer from binary thinking [tribalism] as, perhaps, indeed do the Indians generally. Leaving the person only two options. Generally if you are not with me you are against me!

The Dasam Granth is an example. It is either all ascribed to Guru Gobind Singh Ji or not at all. Either all is in, at par with Guru Granth Sahib Ji, or it should be condemned in its entirety. Even though dedicated scholars / researchers have clarified the contents quite critically many times.

If one is critical of the goings on in India you are anti-India. A Sikh is either pro-India, or even speaking up about atrocities against Sikhs, the Sikh rights, Sikhs as an identifiable distinct group, or any thoughts along those lines, makes a Sikh a Khalistani. If one is critical of the Hindutva agenda then one is anti-Hindu.

Above might be outstanding examples but I am sure one can think of other issues along those lines. The present Taksal issue also falls in that category. Yet, to me, for a thinking person to go into the binary thinking mode, requires a special effort, unless one is a politician or one wants to maintain one’s moral high ground to impress one’s following. Things are rarely black and white. In fact, I believe, there are more shades of grey, and those are the challenges. Binary thinking only helps to stifle robust discussion at best or help to polarise the community at worst.

However outstandingly brilliant one might be, one’s own thoughts stand untested if one is not prepared to listen to all that the other is saying (or trying to convey), with interest, [In fact one should welcome and be obliged for that], rather than selectively picking out what one likes or dislikes.

At the end of the day it is about preparing a common platform to convince the (Sikh) masses out there, to move in a common direction, not just half a dozen (or perhaps a bit more!) intellectuals. That is the real challenge and binary thinking [tribalism], in people (and their groups) that matter, to me, is one of the obstacles!

Baldev Singh Dhaliwal, South Australia
More Baldev Singh Dhaliwal.


"We gladly accept all, and we shall exclude none, for after all,
we are the same, we are all One." --
Guru Gobind Singh

"The temple and the mosque are the same, there is no difference between Hindu worship and Muslim prayer; all human beings are really the same; their differences are illusory. [One Is The Answer What Is The Question?]

The Gods, Demons, Yakshas, Gandharvas, Turks and Hindus; come from different countries and seem different because of their garb.

However, their eyes are the same, their ears the same, their bodies are the same and their habits are the same; after all, they are all an admixture of the elements; earth, air, fire and water.

The Allah of Muslims and The Abhekh of Hindus are the same, the Puranas of the Hindus and the holy Quran of the Muslims are the same; all have the same beautiful form and have been created by the One Lord." -- Guru Gobind Singh

See Yogi Bhajan On The Subject of Banishment.

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