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by Hari Kaur Bird

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A woman holds a wounded relative during protests against
President Saleh in Sanaa, Yemen, October 15, 2011.
2012 World Press Photo of the Year
Samuel Aranda/New York Times


Our mission and blessing to promote diversity and cultural
as taught by Guru Nanak Dev Ji, thereby bringing to
the fore issues of color and gender for the purpose of uplifting people
who have a history of being marginalized, using social media and other
means as platforms to inform various communities of the life experiences
and concerns of marginalized people with regard to the necessity for social
change, dialogue, inclusion, compassion, tolerance, and cultural literacy,
and growth in our human relations going forward in order to better facilitate
the current worldwide shift in global consciousness from tribalism, instability,
and extremism, to harmony, cooperation and enduring peace. In addition, I
welcome and support other organizations that promote the transformation of
as taught by Guru Nanak Dev Ji throughout his life and travels.

Our commitment is to afford every person in the community
the opportunities to explore the sensitivities of the human spirit to
wit each person is inspired to (a) teach and interact with people while
maintaining a keen appreciation for their longing for inclusion, the innate longing
to belong within our human nature; (b) respond with compassionate consideration
and sensitivity to those racial, cultural, religious, ethnic, economic, political, social,
psychological, and philosophical differences that exist within every community.


From a woman, man is born.
Within a woman, man is conceived.
To a woman a man is engaged and
married. A woman becomes a man's friend.
Through a woman, the future generations come.
When a man's woman dies, he seeks another woman.
To a woman he is bound. From a woman, kings are born.
From woman, a woman is born. Without a woman, there would
be no man at all. How can a woman be called bad? -- Guru Nanak

I challenge you to recognize what the world scoffs at, that
your greatest role in your life will be that of wife and mother.
The greatest impact you could ever contribute to our world is a
loving investment in the lives of your precious children. To solve
the problems plaguing our society, we don't need more women
CEOs. We need more women as invested mothers. -- Peter Heck

The beauty of woman is not in her makeup, her fashion,
her sensuality, her sexuality, her manipulation, and that kind of ugly,
low-class, low-breed projection. The beauty of woman is in her majesty, her
oneness as a woman, in her living, feeling and standardization of herself as
a woman. All a woman has to know in her own life is that she's a woman to
begin with, and she's a woman in the end. She's born as a woman, therefore,
it is a law of nature that she should die as a woman. And somebody should
say when she dies, that on this day a great woman has passed away into
her own heavens, leaving behind a legend because she was a legend.
It's a legend who can leave a legend, and I think this is the responsibility
of each one whom God has blessed to be a woman. -- Yogi Bhajan

Life is a constant prayer, not a constant play. Your development as a person
and especially your development as a woman have a complication and it has
a cross-complication. As a woman you do not agree from day one to the day of
your death that you are not a man. You do not agree that you have two active
parts of the brain and man has only one. You do not agree that you conceive,
you deliver, you nurture and you are sixteen times more evolved than a man.
You do not agree that the coziness, the gentleness, the kindness, the character
and the nobility, which you can give to your child is imprinted from the time
of growing up. Nobody can substitute for a woman. -- Yogi Bhajan

All this makeup, your attraction, your beauty, which does not modify and model
you as a graceful woman, is an invitation to exploitation. Do you understand it
as a woman? You attract him, have him, get him, then what? Attract him again, get
him again, attract him again, get him again. Let him come. If he will come, he will never
go. When a man walks to the grace of a woman, he can never walk away. -- Yogi Bhajan

As a woman, you must never exploit or live in any kind of
exploitation, and you must not live in any situation where
you have to attempt to attain security. Do not enter into any
kind of physical, mental, social, or domestic relationship until
you have security and a guarantee that in every facet of your life,
your reproductive faculty and your delicacy is protected. -- Yogi Bhajan

All you have taught your children is, "Get 'A' grades and become
a great taker." You have never taught them to be Givers. Those
who are not Givers know nothing about God. -- Yogi Bhajan

Create dependable children, not dependent children.
Give your children the basic values to face their
own tomorrows, not be blinded by yours. Make
them proper personalities, not helpless puppets.
Position them for success; do not paralyze them
with the commotion of your emotions. --
Yogi Bhajan

Any woman on this planet who values herself as a
woman is great. She is a giver of life. And when you
are a giver of life, what more is there? -- Yogi Bhajan

 Women's Health

By Mark A. Stengler, ND

A woman's relationship with her menstrual cycle can be complicated, on the one hand connecting her to her feminine power and on the other leaving her feeling resentment at the discomfort and inconvenience it can bring. Since doctors have known for years how to manipulate hormones to prevent menstruation from occurring, it was just a matter of time until a drug company brought that option to market.

Seasonale was introduced in 2003 by Barr Pharmaceuticals, and the second generation version, Seasonique, which is said to decrease the incidence of breakthrough bleeding that was a problem with Seasonale, came out in 2006. However, not everyone thinks it is such a great idea to fool Mother Nature by tampering with hormones in this way. While doctors generally see benefit for some women of taking birth control pills to reduce symptoms of PMS, in general more naturally focused practitioners question the wisdom of forcing a woman's body out of its natural cycles.

Let's take a moment to consider this. The human body is hormone-driven -- everything from growth to sleep to stress management to reproduction depends on normal hormone production and cycling. Over and over again we are learning -- too often the hard way -- that changing one body system affects every other. Hormones operate in concert, and one slight shift in one can lead to a cascade of unpredictable changes elsewhere. Many doctors and drug companies claim there are no major health risks to interrupting the female menstrual cycle -- but honestly, they also said that arsenic and mercury could cure syphilis in the late 1800's...cocaine could treat heroin addiction in the early 1900's...smoking was safe in the 1950's...and Vioxx in the 2000s. The list goes on.


To understand the whole-body impact of extended-cycle pills, I called an obstetrician-gynecologist in California, on faculty at a major academic medical center with a reputation for "expertise" on birth control pills and hormones. Interestingly, she told me that many women had already figured out how to suppress their periods themselves by skipping the placebo pills in their oral contraceptive packs, thereby limiting or avoiding menstruation completely. Since side effect issues are nearly the same with all birth control pills, whether they allow for 12 periods per year or four as these new pills do, the results -- and risks -- are believed to be the same, she said. Her view -- and that of many other mainstream medical practitioners -- is that this is perfectly safe. In fact, when I called back for clarification on a few points while writing this story and she realized that I planned to discuss some very real concerns about the wisdom of interfering with a natural process in this way, she refused to speak further on the topic. That's why she's not named here -- but for the sake of fairness in presenting both perspectives, I am including her comments.


Frighteningly, there's little long-range research available on the side effects associated with extended cycle oral contraceptives, but some findings have shown that in general oral contraceptives decrease risk of some cancers -- ovarian and endometrial cancers in particular.

On the flip side, the pill tends to decrease testosterone, the hormone that affects muscle strength and stamina, along with libido in many women -- but the doctor I spoke with says that she finds most women are so relieved to have reliable birth control it compensates for any drop they might experience in sex drive.


One concern about the extended cycle pills, specifically, relates to iron. The menstrual cycle naturally depletes iron stores each month and this might be considered an advantage of the extended cycle pills. Anemia is quite common among menstruating women and being anemic can cause cardiac stress, in addition to creating fatigue and general malaise.

However, other studies have linked iron storage in post-menopausal women, like these non-menstruating women may now have, with increased risk for coronary heart disease (see Daily Health News, January 23, 2007). Some scientists speculate that women's lower rate of heart attack when pre-menopausal may in fact stem from the loss of iron each month through menstrual blood, and interfering with that would therefore increase their risk. This question is still unanswered, however, and is likely to be so for some time, though the doctor acknowledges the potential risk.


While scientists are proud of their achievements and harried women are pleased to have some power over the inconvenience of menstruation, playing with the natural ebb and flow of hormone levels can have unintended consequences. I asked Mark Stengler, ND, author of Bottom Line's Natural Healing newsletter along with several books on women's health, about the other bodily changes that might result from a dramatic reduction in menstrual periods. As expected, he has concerns:

Reducing testosterone can cause fatigue, memory problems and loss of both lean muscle mass and bone mass. Risk for osteoporosis may be elevated.

Synthetic progesterone, the kind used in birth control pills, is foreign to the human body, and therefore may lead to an imbalance between estrogen and progesterone and theoretically increase the risk of chronic disease. Since hormones operate in concert, altering the balance anywhere can affect everything else, says Dr. Stengler.

Further imbalances involving adrenal function may distort blood sugar balance, vulnerability to disease and infection, and fluid retention or electrolyte levels.

Hypothyroid disorders may be created.


On the purely practical level, another drawback is that the extended cycle pills do not exactly eliminate bleeding, at least not for the first six or so months, a fact confirmed by the gynecologist I interviewed. Breakthrough bleeding is common while the body adjusts, and it is unpredictable and can be quite pronounced. This leads some women to choose to remain on the conventional pills so they at least can plan in advance for their periods.

According to my mainstream gynecology expert, one particular group of women -- those with endometriosis -- may benefit from the extended cycle pills. Endometriosis is a condition in which the tissue that normally lines the uterus, to be later sloughed off during menstruation, grows outside of the uterus in places like the fallopian tubes or ovaries. Women with endometriosis suffer terrible pain with their periods, so they are grateful to be able to avoid it by taking extended cycle pills. The long-term results of manipulating endometrial tissue in this manner have yet to be evaluated.

The reasons why a woman might consider staving off many of her periods with an extended cycle birth control pill vary, of course, and some may be valid. It's a less radical intervention than surgery for women who are debilitated by problems related to their menstrual cycle, for sure. But it is not a decision to make lightly or for convenience. Our bodies have their own wisdom and changing things around for convenience may seem a good idea in the short term -- but over the long term the consequences may prove such decisions regrettable.

Mark A. Stengler, ND

Mark A. Stengler, ND, a naturopathic physician and leading authority on the practice of alternative and integrated medicine. He is director of the La Jolla Whole Health Clinic, La Jolla, California, and associate clinical professor at the National College of Naturopathic Medicine, Portland, Oregon. He is author of the newsletter Bottom Line Natural Healing, www.DrStengler.com. --

Millions Get Unneeded Pap Smears*

Nearly half the 22 million American women who have had a hysterectomy and whose cervix was removed are getting unnecessary Pap smears to test for cervical cancer, researchers said.

"It is possible that women who have had a total hysterectomy are not aware that they are no longer at risk for cervical cancer. Or they may simply be so enthusiastic about cancer screening that they continue to have Pap smears regardless of the usefulness of the test," wrote study author Brenda Sirovich of Dartmouth Medical School in Hanover, New Hampshire.

One in five women aged 18 and older have undergone hysterectomies, the report said. Most women who underwent the surgery also had their cervix removed.

"It is also possible that physicians are largely responsible for continuing cervical cancer screening after hysterectomy," or that testing is continued to meet screening benchmarks, she said in a report published in the Journal of the American Medical Association.

Whatever the reason, a 1996 recommendation by a U.S. task force on preventive health to discontinue Pap smears in women who have undergone hysterectomies is being ignored.

The recommendation to stop the test did not include women who had had hysterectomies because they had cancer.

The test, formally known as Papanicolaou smear screening, was introduced in he 1940s and has been credited with substantially reducing the number of cervical cancer deaths. -- How to prevent UTI's...Click here!



Courtesy of Prevention

Every year, nearly 2.5 million people go under the knife unnecessarily, often with devastating consequences. Make sure you're not one of them.

Two years ago, when Leah Coppersmith went in for back surgery, she expected to be lacing up her running shoes within days. She's been in pain ever since.

A car accident in 1991 left this mother of four with nagging lower-back pain -- annoying, but not bad enough to keep her from running 5-Ks. But in 2005, the nag grew to a scream.

An MRI revealed that two disks -- the gel-filled cushions between the vertebrae -- were badly worn. Coppersmith expected the doctor to recommend a diskectomy, in which part of a troublesome disk is removed to relieve pressure on the nerve; the low-risk surgery had helped her once before. But this time, the surgeon wanted to replace a disk with an artificial one. The procedure was getting great results, he said. Coppersmith was skeptical until he told her she'd be back running 5-Ks again in no time. She laughs bitterly at the memory.

Pain is now the defining feature of her life. She can't sit down to family dinners. She quit her job because she can't work at a desk. Her misery has company: While looking for help online, she found a study showing that 64% of people who received the disk, called the Charité, still needed narcotic painkillers 2 years after surgery.

Every year, upward of 15 million Americans go under the knife -- and for most of them, surgery provides relief or a new lease on life. Joints are replaced, organs are transplanted, lives are saved. But Congress has estimated that surgeons perform 2.4 million unnecessary surgeries a year in the United States, with a cost of roughly $3.9 billion -- and a toll of about 11,900 deaths. The reason isn't simple.

"The majority of surgeons who perform these procedures are actually very enthusiastic about their benefits," says Mark Chassin, MD, chair of the department of health policy at Mount Sinai School of Medicine. "It's not like they get up in the morning and ask themselves, How many unnecessary procedures can I do today? But there's a lot of financial incentive to do surgery that may not benefit the patient, and very little oversight."

So how do you know when someone is suggesting surgery you don't need -- and what can you do to prevent it? Your first line of defense is to become your own advocate. One study showed that when patients and doctors share the decision making, rates of surgery drop by as much as 44%. Here, we explain what's behind four of the procedures most often done unnecessarily and give you expert advice on the best alternatives.


The waiting room of Charles Rosen, MD, a spinal surgeon and an associate professor of orthopedic surgery at the University of California, Irvine, was filled with patients who, like Coppersmith, had failed disk implants. "In my 20 years of orthopedics, I'd never seen so many people in such a severe state of constant pain," he says. So Rosen examined the evidence backing the Charité disk. He was shocked to see that the researchers had compared patients who got the disk with those who received a type of fusion surgery with a particularly high failure rate -- 60%. (Even before the study's publication, that procedure had been largely abandoned.) Then he discovered that researchers on other Charité studies were paid consultants for the device maker. Outraged, Rosen founded the Association of Ethical Spine Surgeons. Members agree not to take money from device makers or form partnerships with the companies.

The spine is ground zero for unnecessary surgeries partly because back pain is incredibly common and notoriously tough to treat. More than 1 million sufferers opt for surgery each year, and spinal fusion -- the use of bone grafts, screws, and other devices to secure one or more vertebrae -- is one of the most popular choices. Between 1996 and 2001, the number of spinal fusions skyrocketed 113%, while the number of knee- and hip-replacement surgeries rose just 15% and 13%, respectively. But unlike those procedures, spinal surgeries often fail -- instead of relieving pain, they can turn it into agony. According to Aaron Filler, MD, PhD, director of the Peripheral Nerve Surgery Program, Institute for Spinal Disorders, at Cedars-Sinai Medical Center in Los Angeles, there are tremendous rewards for spinal surgeons who do aggressive procedures: Because of the hardware involved, an operation on the spine can pay a surgeon 10 times as much as one on the brain. Yet the moneymaking back surgeries help in only a small proportion of cases. What's more, back surgeons are rarely held accountable if the operation fails. "The referring doctor has low expectations," Filler says. "So does the patient, because everyone thinks of back problems as so difficult to treat."

Protect Yourself
Pinpoint the pain: If your doctor labels your back pain as "nonspecific," it means he doesn't know the cause; if he suggests surgery, alarm bells should go off, says Filler. Spinal fusion is most beneficial when vertebrae slip out of place and press on the ones below, which is easily detected on an x-ray. "When properly done for the right reasons, spinal surgery can be extremely effective," says Filler.

Make lifestyle adjustments: A 2003 study compared spinal fusion surgery with a lifestyle approach to back pain: Docs taught patients how to protect their backs, by bending at the knees when lifting, for instance. They also encouraged exercise, like water aerobics. A year later, the nonsurgical approach reduced pain and increased mobility just as much as surgery did. Alternative treatments such as chiropractic and acupuncture can also pay off, studies show. For more info on finding alternative treatments, go to Prevention.com/links.

Consider a helpful shot: A nerve-blocking injection called an epidural, given by a surgeon or a rehab specialist like a physiatrist, may quiet the pain for up to a year; it helps in about 50% of patients.

Skip the hardware: If surgery seems like the right approach, get the simplest procedure possible. There's a much smaller chance of complications if you have a diskectomy, for example, than if you have an artificial disk implanted.


Lori Jo Vest was 36 when three doctors told her a hysterectomy was the only fix for her heavy bleeding caused by uterine fibroids. Terrified that she'd be thrust into early menopause -- in half of all hysterectomies, surgeons end up removing the ovaries, too -- Vest went online and discovered myomectomy, in which the surgeon cuts out the fibroids, sparing the uterus. But her doctors nixed the idea; after all, they said, Vest, who had a toddler, didn't want more children. Then Vest called the nearby University of Michigan, Ann Arbor -- and nearly leaped through the phone when she heard they had a clinic for women seeking alternatives to hysterectomy.

"The doctor said I was a perfect candidate for myomectomy," Vest says. She also told Vest that many surgeons dislike the surgery because it's more difficult than a hysterectomy. Now 44, Vest no longer is troubled by heavy bleeding, but she still has her uterus and ovaries. *"I don't want to go through menopause until my body is ready," she says.

Hysterectomy is second only to C-section as the most common surgery performed on women in the United States. Each year more than 600,000 Americans have the procedure -- twice the rate as in England. A 2000 study found that 70% of the hysterectomies performed in nine Southern California managed-care organizations were recommended inappropriately. "The most common mistake we saw was that doctors didn't try safer, less-invasive approaches first," says lead author Michael Broder, MD, an assistant professor of obstetrics and gynecology at UCLA's David Geffen School of Medicine.

Hysterectomy can be warranted if a woman has cancer, and it can be the right choice in other cases, too -- for instance, if medical treatment didn't get your bleeding under adequate control, and you don't want to try a surgery like myomectomy because of the risk of recurrence. But unless you have cancer, "having a doctor say, 'You absolutely need a hysterectomy,' is akin to a waiter at a restaurant saying, 'You've got to have the steak,'" says Malcolm G. Munro, MD, a professor of obstetrics and gynecology at UCLA. "A good doctor should give you a menu of choices."

Protect Yourself
Try hormones or drugs first: Most hysterectomies are done on women under age 45, but if you can manage symptoms of fibroids with medication until menopause, symptoms usually ease naturally. Birth control pills or other drugs help control irregular bleeding. Also check into getting a progestin-releasing IUD (Mirena): It can dramatically decrease bleeding caused by fibroids.

Consider a less drastic procedure: Like myomectomy, uterine fibroid embolization (UFE) preserves the uterus: An "interventional" radiologist carefully closes off blood vessels feeding the fibroids, starving them. A woman may need more treatment after either procedure if the fibroids come back, and both cause a fair amount of discomfort. (UFE can require serious pain meds, although recovery is quicker than after a hysterectomy, and the risks are lower.) For more info on hysterectomy alternatives, go to Prevention.com/links.


When Irwin Melnicoff, a forensic engineer in Boynton Beach, FL, felt a stabbing chest pain at age 45, he went straight to the cardiologist. The diagnosis? A narrowed artery. The answer? Angioplasty. But Melnicoff was scared of surgery; even when the doctor told him he'd die without the artery-opening procedure, he chose drug therapy instead. (He also chose a new doctor.) That was 25 years ago. With the help of daily heart medications, his chest pain vanished. He walks 30 minutes a day, 7 days a week, and feels great.

He made the right choice. Though angioplasty has been hailed by some as a wonder fix for decades, it now turns out that most of the time, the procedure doesn't help. Angioplasty can save your life if it's done during or right after a heart attack. But in other circumstances, it may not do you much good.

"Doctors used to think of heart disease as a plumbing problem -- that arteries were like drainpipes gradually being clogged by plaque made up mostly of cholesterol," says Arthur Agatston, MD, a preventive cardiologist and author of The South Beach Heart Program. So it seemed to make sense to use angioplasty, in which a small balloon is inflated in the artery, to get that gunk out of the way by squashing it against the vessel wall. However, research has since shown that problematic plaque actually forms within the delicate inner lining of artery walls.

What does cause a heart attack? If the plaque within the wall ruptures, it injures the artery, producing a blood clot as part of the healing process. Unfortunately, the clot can close off the entire artery -- that's a heart attack, and you need angioplasty or bypass surgery immediately. If you have angioplasty, the doctor may also insert a stent, a mesh scaffolding, to hold open the artery.

But if you're not having a heart attack, angioplasty (with or without a stent) won't help and may even do some harm. That's the news from a large trial published in April in the New England Journal of Medicine. People with "stable" heart disease -- they weren't having a heart attack, but a vessel was at least 70% closed -- fared no worse if they received medical therapy, such as aspirin, blood thinners, and cholesterol-lowering drugs, than if they got angioplasty. During the next 4 1/2 years, neither group was more likely to have a heart attack or stroke or die.

A study published late last year helps pinpoint exactly when it's worth getting angioplasty. That trial showed that if the procedure was done 3 or more days after a heart attack, it didn't help. "We were very surprised -- we thought angioplasty would be beneficial even if it was done later," says lead author Judith Hochman, MD, director of the cardiovascular clinical research center at New York University School of Medicine. "But that's why we do studies: to see if the patient really does benefit."

Protect Yourself
Insist on being convinced: If your doctor says you need a non-emergency angioplasty, ask if it will prolong your life. "That question puts a cardiologist on the spot," says Agatston. If the procedure isn't needed to save your life, it still may make sense if angina (bouts of chest discomfort caused by a lack of blood flow to the heart) interferes with daily activities. But get a second opinion -- from a preventive cardiologist, not a cardiac surgeon.

Eat right, exercise, and lose weight if necessary: You needn't avoid fats and carbs to keep your heart healthy -- just choose wisely. A diet high in omega-3-rich canola and olive oils can actually protect your heart. High-fiber carbs in whole grains, fruits, and veggies also help get fats out of your blood.

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Use the meds known to save lives: Many people with high cholesterol aren't on statins, though the drugs slash the risk of heart attack by more than 30%. Similarly, most people with high blood pressure don't get adequate treatment, studies show. Lifestyle changes can bring down both cholesterol and BP, but if they're not enough, medication can be lifesaving. Your doctor may also put you on daily aspirin or another drug to lower the risk of a blood clot.


Soon after Diana Aceti turned 50, the ache in her knee began to keep her from walking and playing tennis, two activities she loved. An orthopedist said that she had a small tear in her cartilage and recommended arthroscopic surgery. "He said I'd back on my feet in a few weeks," says the public relations director from Bridgehampton, NY.

But afterward, Aceti's knee hurt worse than ever. So she got a second opinion -- and the news wasn't good. In a rare complication, her cartilage was damaged beyond repair, and she needed a partial knee replacement. "Doctors talk about surgery like it's getting your teeth cleaned," says Aceti. "If he'd told me this was a possibility, I never would have done it."

Knee arthroscopy is most often used for people, like Aceti, who have osteoarthritis -- cartilage damaged by wear and tear. A surgeon makes small incisions and inserts instruments to remove tissue fragments and wash out the joint in the hopes of reducing pain. Yet in 2002, when knee arthroscopy was put to the test in a randomized, controlled trial, it failed royally. Osteoarthritis patients given arthroscopy reported no more improvement than those who got sham surgery -- incisions were made but no arthroscope was inserted. Still, 5 years later, the procedure remains among the top 10 outpatient surgeries: More than 650,000 knee arthroscopies are performed annually.

Critics say that almost everyone has small tears in their knee cartilage visible on MRIs, providing a never-fail excuse for surgery. "Patients have arthroscopy for what is clearly the result of a bruise or a bump," says Ronald Grelsamer, MD, an associate professor of orthopedic surgery at Mount Sinai Medical Center in New York City. "For many orthopedists it's the only way left to make a half-decent living. Does that justify it? No."

The procedure can help in certain situations, Grelsamer says: If a piece of cartilage is catching, like a hangnail, clipping it can make you feel better. And some doctors still believe that for some osteoarthritis patients, flushing the interior of the knee during arthroscopy can ease pain, perhaps by getting rid of irritating chemicals. Researchers can't predict who will benefit from a washout, though -- and surgeon Bruce J. Moseley, MD, who led the sham surgery comparison, argues that any improvement in arthritis patients is due to the placebo effect.

Protect Yourself
Wait a while: Arthroscopy is most frequently done after a twist or fall, but those injuries often get better within a few months with physical therapy, anti-inflammatory meds, a cortisone injection -- or just the passage of time.

Be skeptical of MRI results: Arthroscopy is most apt to help if there's a detached fragment of cartilage or a severe tear -- a 3 on a 1-to-3 scale, as rated by a radiologist. But even a bad tear may not cause pain, so ask whether it matches up with the area that hurts. --


A young wife sat on a porch in Waycross, Georgia, on a summer day, drinking iced tea and visiting with her mother. As they talked about life, about marriage, about the responsibilities of life and the obligations of adulthood, the mother clinked the ice cubes in her glass thoughtfully and turned a clear, sober glance upon her daughter.

"Don't forget your girlfriends," she advised, swirling the tea leaves to the bottom of her glass. "They'll be more important as you get older. No matter how much you love your husband, no matter how much you love the children you'll have, you are still going to need girlfriends. Remember to go places with them now and then; do things with them. And remember that girlfriends are not only your friends, but your sisters, your daughters, and other relatives too. You'll need other women. Women always do."

"What a funny piece of advice," the young woman thought. "Haven't I just gotten married? Haven't I just joined the couple-world? I'm now a married woman, for goodness' sake, a grown-up, not a young girl who needs girlfriends. Surely my husband and the family we'll start will be all I need to make my life worthwhile."

But she listened to her mother; she kept contact with her girlfriends and made more each year. As the years tumbled by, one after another, she gradually came to understand that her mom really knew what she was talking about. As time and nature work their changes and their mysteries upon a woman, girlfriends are the mainstays of her life.

After 50 years of living in this world, here is what I know about girlfriends: Girlfriends bring you casseroles and scrub your bathroom when you need help. Girlfriends keep your children and keep your secrets. Girlfriends give advice when you ask for it. Sometimes you take it; sometimes you don't. Girlfriends don't always tell you that you're right, but they're usually honest. Girlfriends still love you, even when they don't agree with your choices. Girlfriends laugh with you, and you don't need canned jokes to start the laughter.

Girlfriends pull you out of jams. Girlfriends help you get out of bad relationships. Girlfriends help you look for a new apartment, help you pack, and help you move. Girlfriends will give a party for your son or daughter when they get married or have a baby, in whichever order that comes.

Girlfriends are there for you, in an instant, and when the hard times come. Girlfriends will drive through blizzards, rainstorms, hail, heat, and gloom of night to get to you when your hour of need is desperate. Girlfriends listen when you lose a job or a friend. Girlfriends listen when your children break your heart. Girlfriends listen when your parents' minds and bodies fail. Girlfriends cry with you when someone you loved dies. Girlfriends support you when the men in your life let you down. Girlfriends help you pick up the pieces when men pack up and go. Girlfriends rejoice at what makes you happy, and are ready to go out and kill what makes you unhappy.

Times passes. Life happens. Distance separates. Children grow up. Marriages fail. Love waxes and wanes. Hearts break. Careers end. Jobs come and go. Parents die. Colleagues forget favors. Men don't call when they say they will. But girlfriends are there, no matter how much time and how many miles are between you. A girlfriend is never farther away than needing her can reach. See Masculine Moments And Manly Memories.

When you have to walk that lonesome valley, and you have to walk it for yourself, your girlfriends will be on the valley's rim, cheering you on, praying for you, pulling for you, intervening on your behalf, and waiting with open arms at the valley's end. Sometimes, they will even break the rules and walk beside you. Or come in and carry you out.

My daughter, sisters, sisters-in-law, mother-in-law, daughters-in-law, nieces, cousins, extended family, and friends bless my life. The world wouldn't be the same without them, and neither would I. When we began this adventure called womanhood, we had no idea of the incredible joys or sorrows that lay ahead, nor did we know how much we would need each other. Every day, we need each other still. --

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"Your physical structure and the male physical structure are different. Your hormones and male body hormones are different. Your psyche and the male psyche are different. Now where have you learned to compete with something, which is totally not you, but is your polarity? Do you understand? Male is not you and you are not the male. There is nothing in common. There are two different polarities, two different psyches, two different persons with two different geographies. How can you bring the Himalayas to Sri Lanka? Or how can you take the Rockies to New York?" --
Yogi Bhajan, Women's Camp, 7/30/1984

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