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"They say that man is mighty, A wise woman is never old. She is a place of worship. Yogi Bhajan You are the first teacher. You are the first introduction. Can you deny it? It is a simple idea that out of the woman comes the human generations. Whatever By construction, the fulfillment of a woman is motherhood—and motherhood A woman who is not a leader is a miserable person… A leader has three things.
It is incumbent on those who know, to teach those who do not know. Hari Singh
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the needs of your mate priority. One parent I challenge you to recognize what the world scoffs at, that All you have taught your children is, "Get 'A' grades and become Create dependable
children, not dependent children. When we give too many choices to our children, they become confused. Children are born with intrinsic leadership traits, which prepare them for life. THE TEN COMMANDMENTS FOR WOMEN TO TEACH OUR CHILDREN
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TWELVE DO'S AND DON'T'S TO SAY TO YOUR CHILD
FIVE DO'S
SEVEN DON'T'S
a.) Praise only those accomplishments that require real effort. Finishing a glass of milk doesn't cut it. Neither does drawing a picture, if your child is the kind who makes dozens of them every day. b.) Be specific. Instead of "Beautiful job," say, "What bright, happy colors you picked for the dog's spots." Or "I see you drew a picture of the story that we read this morning." c.) Praise the behavior rather than the child: "You were so quiet with your puzzle while I was finishing that paperwork, just like I asked."
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.) Love them
.) Build their self-esteem
.) Challenge them
.) Listen to
them 
.) Expect respect from them 
.) Limit them 
.) Make God a part of their lives
.) Develop
their love of learning 
.) Help them to be community-minded
.) Let
them go
What you do matters. "This is one of the most important principles," Steinberg tells WebMD. "What you do makes a difference. Your kids are watching you. Don't just react on the spur of the moment. Ask yourself, 'What do I want to accomplish, and is this likely to produce that result?'"
You cannot be too loving. "It is simply not possible to spoil a child with love," he writes. "What we often think of as the product of spoiling a child is never the result of showing a child too much love. It is usually the consequence of giving a child things in place of love -- things like leniency, lowered expectations, or material possessions."
Be involved in your child's life. "Being an involved parent takes time and is hard work, and it often means rethinking and rearranging your priorities. It frequently means sacrificing what you want to do for what your child needs to do. Be there mentally as well as physically."
Adapt your parenting to fit your child. Keep pace with your child's development. Your child is growing up. Consider how age is affecting the child's behavior.
Establish and set rules. "If you don't manage your children's behavior when they are young, they will have a hard time learning how to manage themselves when they are older and you aren't around. Any time of the day or night, you should always be able to answer these three questions: Where is my child? Who is with my child? What is my child doing? The rules your children have learned from you are going to shape the rules they apply to themselves."
Foster your child's independence. "Setting limits helps your child develop a sense of self-control. Encouraging independence helps them develop a sense of self-direction. To be successful in life, they're going to need both."
Be consistent. "If your rules vary from day to day in an unpredictable fashion or if you enforce them only intermittently, your child's misbehavior is your fault, not his. Your most important disciplinary tool is consistency. Identify your non-negotiables. The more your authority is based on wisdom and not on power, the less your child will challenge it."
Avoid harsh discipline. Parents should never hit a child, under any circumstances. "Children who are spanked, hit, or slapped are more prone to fight with other children," he writes. "They are more likely to be bullies and more likely to use aggression to solve disputes with others."
Explain your rules and decisions. "Good parents have expectations they want their children to live up to," he writes. "Generally, parents overexplain to young children, and underexplain to adolescents. What is obvious to you may not be evident to a 12-year-old. They don't have the priorities, judgment or experience that you have."
Treat your child with respect. "The best way to get respectful treatment from your children is to treat them respectfully," Steinberg writes. "You should give your children the same courtesies you would give to anyone else. Speak to them politely. Respect their opinion. Pay attention when they are speaking to you. Treat them kindly. Try to please them when you can. Children treat others the way their parents treat them. Your relationship with your children is the foundation for their relationships with others."
This
is the gold standard of defiance busting. When your child reaches
the limit, simply swoop in and physically leave the store, take
her out of the sandbox, end the playdate, and head home. There must
be no hesitation on your part. Don't cajole, beg, or convince. Your
child's banking on an emotional reaction from you -- if there isn't
one, she gets no payoff. Explain your action in very clear language:
"You didn't stop throwing sand when I told you to, so now I'm
taking you out of the sandbox." This is bottom-line, no-nonsense
discipline, and it works best when used with obviously egregious
behaviors.
When
the misbehavior isn't site-specific, or you can't just leave, or
you're at home, you've got to find a threat that matters to your
child. After all, one child's time-out is another child's excuse
to daydream. Consequences tied to the misbehavior are best: "The
longer you delay going to bed, the fewer stories I'll have time
to read you." The lesson that Mom doesn't forget bad behavior
can also pack a wallop. Try this: When your child acts out at a
party, tell her she'll have to miss the next one -- and photograph
her misbehaving. When the next invite comes, bring out the picture
to remind her of why she won't be going.
Currently
in vogue is the notion of letting the child know that you understand
how she feels. "I know how frustrated you are. I wish we could
stay at the park all day, too, but..." This is a good choice
when you suspect something besides outright defiance is causing
the problem. Next time your child has a meltdown at the five-and-dime,
ask yourself: Has she missed a nap? Has she eaten lunch? Is there
a new baby brother at home getting all the attention? Sometimes
all that's needed is a little extra loving from Mom.
"I
want you in here by the time I count to five!" This tells your
child that you're done asking and his time is nigh. It's an effective
method if you're prepared to follow through (and have done so in
the past). It's when you reach the magic number and then continue
to plead that you've lost the battle. You've got to show your kids
you mean business, every time -- whether it's picking them up and
carrying them to the car or putting them into bed fully clothed.
Some parents swear by counting backward: Zero is more final than
five, which is so tempting to stretch into siiiiixxxxxx or even
sevvvvvennn.
Unfortunately,
hunger and exhaustion (or, worse, both) can render your child immune
to any discipline technique. What do you do then? Sometimes, not
a thing. One mom was stuck in traffic when her 3-year-old demanded
a lollipop to top off his snow cone. He hadn't slept well the night
before, and it was a sweltering 100-degree day. Mom said no, and
it sent him over the edge. She realized the best she could do was
stay calm and get home safely. Once there, she plopped her thrashing,
shrieking child in the time-out chair. Within minutes, her little
monster had fallen sound asleep where he sat. Sometimes, it seems,
kids deal with their defiance all by themselves.
